In May of 2022 I stepped into my 30s. As Im navigating my early 30s I can’t help but take a step back & reflect on how I got here. My 20s was full of SO MUCH. The good, the bad, the worst, exciting and everything in between. And as much as it was exciting, grief stricken and powerful, the thought of turning 30 was a bit scary. When you’re so used to a very eventful, unplanned, wonderful, and full of growing pains kind of life, turning a corner always feels a bit odd.

Honestly, a few weeks before my 30th Birthday I was feeling very uneasy, almost as if I was going through a midlife crisis. Something I continuously stressed to my Dad who noticed my uneasiness. As a young girl I’ve always thought once you’re 30 your life was pretty much established. I THOUGHT I would’ve known exactly what my purpose was, rich, and living in my dream home. Even though I’m very BLESSED to have the things I do have, I thought life would be different at 30. I was putting too much pressure on myself to accomplish things by a certain time.

Now that I’m older I realize that you can’t put a time limit on everything especially goals or rush the process. My 20s taught me that everything good in life takes time and to not rush the PROCESS. Just RELAX.

Reflecting on some of the horrible life experiences in my 20s made me realize, I was angry and frustrated with a lot of pain built up and unresolved. I had no tools to help deal with my emotions and didn’t know how to do anything with them other than numb and avoid. Wow—what a decade and journey it’s been to go from there to where I am now. I thought I’d shared some of my experience & wisdom…

• Perfection is not real.
• Food is medicine—for the mind and the body.
• No one else can be responsible for how we feel. Taking responsibility is freedom.
• You can’t plan everything, and if you try to you’ll miss out on experiencing everything you worked so hard to plan in the first place.
• Someone will always have something to say; you can’t please everyone—so don’t try to.
• Being controversial isn’t always a bad thing. Having everyone like you isn’t always a good thing.
• Every human needs some kind of therapy.
• There will never be a perfect time to do something. It will NEVER all align, so stop waiting and learn to work with what you’ve got.
• People who are mean/negative/angry are in pain.
• “If you are depressed you are living in the past. If you are anxious you are living in the future. If you are at peace you are living in the present.” ― Lao Tzu
• You can’t do anyone else’s personal work for them. In fact, if you’re trying, you’re probably avoiding your own personal work.
• We have everything we need inside of us already.
• Be who you want, not who you think other people want you to be
• There is such a thing as too much yes. Saying yes to everything can leave you overscheduled, overbooked, and utterly stressed out
• You need to fill yourself up with love.
• Become a whole being on your own.
• Do all things with love, but don’t romanticize life like you can’t survive without it.
• Don’t be distracted by the views of others: focus on what engages and inspires you.
• If you’re excited by a subject that no one else is, all that should matter to you is that you’re interested.
• When I’m nice for the sake of actually caring about others, and living by my values, then no matter what others’ responses are, they can’t hurt me.
• Move on from bad vibes, old friends, lovers & bad situations.
• Invest in people who invest in you.
• Your personal space is important.
• You may have fewer friends than you think.
• Silence is powerful so use it wisely.
• Stand and speak up for yourself.
• Set goals for yourself and work on them.
• Life will humble you without warning
• Life is too short to stay at a job you hate
• Don’t allow a bad phase to ruin your perspective on life. Abad phase does not last, the storm never stays, what is now will not be forever.
• Be a good person, But don’t waste time trying to prove it.
• Eliminate what’s doesn’t help you evolve
• Heal on your own terms
• Self love is the highest frequency that attracts everything you desire.
• Stop creating competitions that doesn’t exist.
• Always stay true to yourself
• Tearing someone down will never elevate you
• Anytime you find yourself giving more than you receive, step back
• Not all losses are a loss
• Nothing good ever comes from too many people knowing your business. Being private and low-key is the best way to be.

Even though I had to say goodbye to my 20s, I’m looking forward & I’m already enjoying life in my 30s!! I heard your 30s are some of the best years of your life.

I’ve been doing some intention setting and really want to just go into this next decade LOVING life, loving myself, and learning from as many people & experiences as I can. I can’t wait to see where I’ll be 10 years from now!